I’ll stand by you

Sometimes it is really hard to stand by someone who has a mental illness. You want to help them, and you do help them. Time and time again. Again and again. You forgive them. Again and again. But how many times do you stand by them as they make one bad decision after another, expecting that someone will always be there to pick up the pieces?

Someone very close to me has bipolar disorder. I haven’t spoken to him since his Armenian mafia phone call to me in the middle of the night. I can’t talk to him at the moment. His mental health is too precarious and I think my book has the potential to tip him over the edge. When I am next talking to him, I will tell him this, ‘I will stand by you, I will always love and support you, but I have limits and there are boundaries. Don’t call me at 1.30 am again telling me that you should be in a psych ward, call the Mental Health Crisis Team. Don’t ask for my advice if you are not going to do anything about is. I really hope that the Armenian mafia don’t get you. I can’t always help you, but one thing is certain – it might be hard, but I’ll always stand by you.’

Have you got a brother like this? Or a husband? Or a child? It’s easy to say ‘I’ll stand by you’, but not so easy to do.

The Discussion

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  • Rolla April 16th, 2013 at 4:54 am #1

    I tried and tried, but I dont think it is the mental illness anymore

  • BOP April 16th, 2013 at 9:26 am #2

    You’re probably right.

  • BOP April 16th, 2013 at 9:31 am #3

    The Brisbane launch is this Saturday at 2.00pm. I am very scared but very excited too. Wish me luck!!will let you know how I get on.


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